Nisha Mody
Writer. Feminist Healing Coach. Librarian. Cat Mom. I write about healing & justice. Read more at and hear me on my podcast, MigrAsians.
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I’m no meditation expert, but I know that meditation isn’t easy for everyone. I honestly don’t think it’s ever easy at first. And even if you do it every day for almost two years, like me, there are still times it can feel like the first day.

But the point of meditation isn’t to never feel distracted. The point is to return back to it and know that you can always return to your breath and to yourself whenever you choose. And in these pandemic days, a sure thing is a nice thing.

I’m going to offer some meditation tips…

But be mindful if they are.

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The question of passion and career are so often dependent upon each other in society. I say this as someone who has always tried to figure out her one passion in life, only to learn that this is a problematic desire. I made this video about this exact global conundrum.

Aside from the fact that we can be multipassionate, or a multipotentialite as coined in this Ted talk, we also don’t have to turn our passions or hobbies or interests into side hustles. The “hustle” has been glorified by capitalism as a way to “have it all” when the 9–5…

I’ve asked them too.

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When I used to go to Al-Anon meetings, I marveled at how I didn’t know what almost anyone I met did for a living. Nobody asked. It was the type of environment where profession wasn’t centered. You’d only find out by happenstance because someone mentioned it in passing.

It always amazed me that no one asked “What do you do?” since this is usually one of the first questions people ask each other when they meet. While this isn’t one of the questions I’ll go into detail in this article, it does have classist connotations. …

See what I did there?

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There is a lot of writing advice out there that encourages writers to use numbers in the title of their articles, creating what is called a “listicle”. For example, this piece that in Better Marketing provides 6 reasons to use numbers in your title:

  1. It makes the article sound authoritative
  2. It lets readers know how much time they need to invest
  3. They suit our brains
  4. Google loves numbers
  5. It provides structure for the writer and reader
  6. The numbers back up the numbers

Feel free to dive into it to se the rationale. Some of these reasons are human and some…

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The pandemic forced many workers to work from home. Some welcomed the change, enjoying being at home with their pets or having a chance to sleep in. Others weren’t sure how to balance their family life, having to monitor remote schooling while remote working and juggle other family demands. And many didn’t want to mix up their personal and professional spaces. These are all valid reactions to this unusual predicament.

Pre-pandemic, it was easier to delineate your personal and professional lives. Now sitting in our personal spaces while working a profession is a bit fuzzy. A meeting can be interrupted…

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With a new year comes resolutions, goals, projects, and the to-do’s you didn’t do during the pandemic because, well, there was a pandemic and the inequities that followed behind. Everything felt overwhelming, on top of the tumult of the world around us. And, if we’re honest with ourselves, it still feels that way.

Sometimes we forget that to get sh*t done in challenging times (and even non-challenging times), we might not want to take the standard route of creating priorities, buying a planner, or waking up ten minutes earlier every day.

Here are three ways you can get sh*t done…

Consider a trauma-informed framework to address habits (and the world)

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What do you think of when you think of your “bad” habits? For me, I think of how I constantly touch and pick at my hair, hunch over, and scroll through social media with no end game.

When I was in grade school, my “bad” habit was using my eraser too much. My fourth grade teacher taped over the eraser part of my pencil so I wouldn’t use it. She wasn’t concerned about where my perfectionism came from, she just wanted to stop the habit in its tracks.

I guess that’s one way to do it. Surprise: it didn’t work.

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If you’re about to start writing those New Year’s resolutions, read this first.

I used to hate goals and anything that asked me to commit to achieving a specific outcome because I never liked the idea of not being able to change my mind. But, I’ve slowly moved through this. In, Goals Don’t Have to Be Scary I discuss that goals felt less daunting once I realized that I could veer off course and not be punished by the achievement Gods.

Now, I’m going to take this a step further.

The classic New Year’s resolution usually involves losing a set…

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There are so many books, articles, and essays on my reading list. I want to read memoir, books about trauma and healing, the latest news, and so much more. So here I go adding more things to read.

I don’t feel bad though.

Because usually healing is siloed into individual behavior. Self-help is just that, SELF-based. But what about the connections to colonization, assimilation, stolen land, which lead to depression, domestic abuse, addiction, and other mental health challenges. These structures and events are pervasive.

That’s why I created The Healing Hype to talk about how healing and justice are…

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My dad and me in a shallow backyard swimming pool.

After my father died seven years ago, I went into “get things done” mode. We had to figure out the family finances, what to do with his car, and all the many things he quietly did without us realizing.

I didn’t process much emotionally partly because I wanted to support my mom through the changes she was experiencing and help her understand the household and financial fallout that occurs after someone dies. This was new to all of us, so I hustled to make it easier. But it was also because I wasn’t quite sure what there was to process…

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